Army Wife Vents

   I feel like I want to blame deployment on every problem my marriage has. ...we have little communication except quick phone calls because he's so busy all the time, I feel alone and honestly you have to be tough and trust each other big time. Even if a spouse does do something wrong; how would either one of you know about it? It is a scary thought. It also makes me mad that when you are loyal and lonely daily; some soldiers still think their wives are doing wrong...so you are screwed either way it seems.When something breaks in the house or I need my car fixed; it's because of deployment my husband is not here. I know this is what he signed up for and I knew what I was getting myself into but it is so hard. My friends do not understand; they cry when their boyfriends are just gone for a day or has a late shift at work. I have never been more miserable in my life than this honestly; it's so depressing being alone and this was our first year of marriage. People can change so much in a year too...so it's hard to know someone can easilly have a change of heart while they are deployed; and I feel so awful for women that happens to, because I've known couples who go through that...and deployment must be the reason to blame, right? I am just being a tad stubborn because I know true love can get through a deployment; but sometimes I just have to say..."Screw you,deployment." It is very hard and it seems like the closer it is t ending; the more anxiety I get. I have not gotten to even live with my husband yet and I had to go about getting our first place together all by myself. Sure; I sent him pictures of the place but it was so hard not being able to just hold hands and go look ourselves...oh,well...I guess that's just part of deployment and honestly I hate bitching, because at least he's safe and I know tragedies happen pretty much daily over in the countries our soldiers are at. I've learned to really appreciate our time with loved ones and to be a lot more patient...and I wish I wouldve stayed a lot more busier. I feel like lately all I do is snap and am so frustrated and angry. I hate the person I am lately and I am a very nice and giving person...but I hate how depressed this has made me and I do not blame deployment completely...but I just wonder how differently things would have been without this last year of my best friend being gone. I am actually tearing up thinking about it. It's a bittersweet feeling...accomplishment he's coming home and is safe...but then a lot of sadness on all we missed out on together; Valentines Day, our birthdays, his sons birthdays...all those little holidays we do not think are important but "normal" couples get to celebrate together. This is army wife life...our men aren't here often but at least we cheish those little times we are together a lot more. Lots of couples argue over money issues during deploymet too. Sure a soldier can save a lot of money overseas; but I think it's sad and awful when I hear another wife claim her husband says he's "using  up his money."  I think it's YOUR money if you are a couple; children or not. You have a girl waiting on you and as long as she's paying the bills...which are YOUR bills too then you should not complain. Appreciate the girl whose waiting on you. With my husbands money; it goes on my car payment...which is actually OUR car; and some of living expenses such as if I need gas, food,etc.    I hate when I hear a wife say how her husband thinks its all HIS money. No; she waits for you, she's alone everyday...hell, she deserves a lot more probably! I would never use anyone or think its okay to use anyone,ever...but paying bills is not cheap, single or together so I get so upset hearing about selfish soldiers who are away for a year; but cry about money issues when their wife is using it for bills.

Friendship weekend

   This weekend I will be celebrating with my best friends. I want to express how lucky I am to have the friends I do. I would think I am a pretty good judge of character; but these people are great. I see some people whose friends date their exes, never include them, and only want to "party." I love friends who are there when you are broke, when you are in the hospital, when you are sick and when you just need to vent. I have the best friends ever and everyday they amaze me at how caring and loyal they are. My friend's bday is this weekend and i'm sad it will be all couples; since my man is still deployed. That is okay though; because deep down I know he'd want me to have fun every once in awhile. I know If he were here; he would come along and when he's here I will not ever have to go places alone anymore. I love him more each day. I am ready for a nice weekend; I've been working hard since Jan. with this new job...I work as a program advisor for an online school for military spouses and I love it. I get to work from home! Once me and my husband move; I will be able to do my direct sales home party businesses too....to get out of the house and of course help my husband financially as much as possible. I want us to be able to have a lot of money saved for emergencies and to just help him. He is such a hard worker and that is another reason I love him so much. I respect his work ethic completely. He doesn't understand really why I love home businesses but I do it for us too. I always want to be the stay at home mommy who is making wonderful income but never misses her daughters dance recitals or any of her sons baseball games. I want to be the PTA mom who is always there. I know many parents work hard and unfortuantly miss out of their childrens events or activities and I know people have to work; but for me; I am going to always do home businesses only. I think having a home business is actually more difficult. It does usually require more discipline and most are in sales which is very stressful at times. I am glad I do not have to ''sell,'' I just help military spouses get started in education and I give them the basic information; if they choose to get started; the company helps them from there. I post ads and just let them know they can possibly attend our courses; with tuition free. I feel proud of myself because many people let these benefits go to waste because they do not know of them. Anyhow; we are going to celebrate my friends bday and just have some much-needed friend time. All of us have men we love dearly so do not spend as much time together as we used to. I am excited to hang out with them. I am a firm believer in keeping your friendships healthy; just as you would a marriage. Of course; a marriage is much more serious most of the time....but I believe in really appreciating good friends as well and always being there for them too! I hate being away from my husband but I know that soon we'll get to spend all the missed outings, holidays.etc. together and I can not wait!

Homecoming Outfits

In honor of the hopeful  end of this deployment; I figured I'd write about awesome looks for homecoming. This is a big thing to us spouses & girlfriends who get all dolled up just for our skype dates. So; homecoming is a big deal to us; for sure. I see many ladies asking "what should I wear for homecoming?" on many military spouse support pages I am on.  I know our solider's probably do not care if we showed up in sweatpants with no makeup; however to most girls; we seriously usually think a lot about them! My advice would to not overdo it; and wear something just incase you to run & jump in his arms :) If it's colder; wear something like a sweater dress, leggings and super cute boots. Dress it up with jewelry and beautiful makeup & hair. You do not want to look over done; but you can still look beautiful; this is a big day! Keep in mind his co-workers and many families will be there; with children so do not dress revealing...save that for later. By the way; sexy lingerie to suprise him under your clothes will have him super excited! I have shared some of my favorite ideas; for both warmer & colder weather.

Facts about me

Facts about me!

I used to always want to be a teacher or broadcast journalist

Everyone calls me witty or very blunt & honest...too honest. Deep down; I am super sensitive and I want to be everyone's friends and make everyone happy. I'm the girl who will buy everyone a Christmas gift; even if I do not know you very well. I like to make people happy and I'm usually super friendly to everyone if I feel comfortable.

I used to be a cheerleading coach in highschool; and as a child I was on an all-star competitive cheerleading team. I made the jr. high cheer squad in 8th grade or so; but I was always ineligible and in trouble...so that did not fit too well with the "cheerleader" reputation & rules

I love reality tv! All of the shows people I know call so tacky; yet addictive...teen mom, jersey shore, 16 & pregnant, etc.

I am very sensitive and I love nice people. I am so sensitive that honestly whenever I watch tv; some scene usually makes me cry...I'm trying to be tougher!

I do modeling on the side; I've been in catalogs and I have done modeling & promotion work for Dillards, Budweiser, a Katy Perry Concert, a project runway contestant & more! I have even been a ring card girl for a few boxing events; locally and nationally. I plan on doing a lot more modeling soon; I've taken too much time off.

My personality is pretty much like my grandmothers...very sweet and giving...but don't piss her off; you will see her crazy side. I am working on being more calm however. I think with maturity; you don't let your crazy side show. I never want to be a pushover however.

I love to read and write...and I'm a complete internet addict!

I love couponing but I make such a mess with it!

I am a bit of a hoarder; I hate getting rid of things. I am much better however than I used to be. I realize I don't really miss things I thought i'd hate getting rid of.

I am super unorganized; but I need my closet to be organized; even by color-coordination.

My husband is a soldier; and he's hot.

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You may be eligible to attend online courses at NO cost to you! Don't let it go to waste or wait until you are no longer eligible! Find out If you qualify! I was able to use this grant which is a $4,000 grant for online courses. This grant is for spouses of active duty, deployed or service members on title 10 orders. Spouse must be within following ranks: e1-e5, o1-o2 or w1-w2. Use this benefit before its too late or you no longer qualify. Courses are done at your own pace and are completely portable. This is great to stay busy during deployments or to do something positive for yourself. We will get you all set up and enrolled! Don't delay!
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40 People Say A Lubbock Woman Scammed Them Out Of Thousands

A few days ago I was approached by a newcaster who was interested in doing a story on a problem I was having. One day on facebook I got a friend request from a "business" titled Marcys Closet...yes; without the apostrophe. I noticed we had many mutual friends of military wives and support groups for the troops. I know a lot of military wives, girlfriends,etc. advertise and support among each other so I approved her request and checked out her page. She sold a lot of things and I placed an order and never got my items. She would then not anwser her e-mails and block ladies who ordered from her; some order totaling over 2K. My order was pretty small; however it's wrong she was targetting women, military spouses and anyone around the holidays especially. So many ladies have not gotten refunds; yet some were only able to through paypal if they used that as a payment method. She goes by a few different names such as Marcella, Marcy and numerous facebook names and pages...most around the name of Affordable fashionista, material girl fashion,etc.
She never once apologized or did anything except make excuses. She would say she had a miscarriage the day before, or the items we ordered were in a shed and would be delivered...it was just all sick lies; especially the ones about her children. When I first ordered I thought things were sort of fishy because I got a fake tracking number and then suddenly on her page I noticed people were asking for the correct tracking numbers and she would soon delete them from her page. I decided to contact those ladies and we all compared evidence, stories and so on. I realized I had been scammed; and the sad part is that after many of us confronted her; she was still opening new pages and scamming new people. She even had the nerve to go under the name of Material Girl Fshn next and post she's selling things to donate to the troops...sick. Again; my order was fairly small (under $100) but my husband is deployed, we are young newlyweds, and he works very hard for his money. If I wanted to give away money; It would not be to a scam. I trusted her because she claimed she was a marines' girlfriend and she posted lots of photos of her merch and I have the messages even saved where she claimed that my order would not take long and it was shipped on a certain date...be careful ladies; I guess there are monsters who love to target military spouses. Of course; she did not only target spouses of troops; some were local ladies in her area she'd even send an assistant to pick up money from; promising them their orders once they arrived. I have yet to get my refund back.

40 People Say A Lubbock Woman Scammed Them Out Of Thousands

...Fun date ideas!

In need of new and fun date ideas? Check out my ideas below! I was planning ideas of what to do when my husband gets back home...so this triggered my idea for a new blog post as well

1. Couples Massage
2. Museum
3. Aquarium
4. Picnic
5. Game night...twister,uno,etc. with a bottle of wine
6. Bubble Bath
7. Lock yourselves in a hotel room and order takeout or room service
8. Spend an entire day watching a tv series season on DVD
9. Go to a new restaurant you've never been to before and end the night with a carriage ride
10. Horse back riding
11. Rollerskating or ice skating
12. Rent a cabin for the weekend
13. Take a roadtrip to a new city you've never been to before
14. Visit a local vineyard or wine tasting class
15. Go on a hot air balloon ride together
16. Take a limo to a professional NBA or NFL game!
17. Take a fitness class together
18. Find a couple to double date with!
19. Visit a local adult toy shop and pick out goodies for each other
20. Spend a night visiting as many local bars you've never been to before
21. Find local couples workshops to visit
22. Visit a pottery class and make a new art piece for each other

Military Ladies

MILITARY LADIES ♥

1.) If she wasn't emotional before, that is all about to change.

2.) You getting a higher rank could just mean an automatic free lay.

3.) Get her a pair of dog tags, ASAP, This is crucial, she will never take them off.

4.) Most of the time, you losing reception during training is your fault.

(Though, she will eventually understand)

5.) Most of the time, everything is your fault.

(This especially goes for when she is pregnant)

6.) She WILL start talking like your guys and you talk, including using your last names.

7.) Her patriotism could out-do most of your men... she will be proud... VERY proud.

8.) Be Ready: your car will end up with a yellow ribbon magnet or an "I LOVE MY _____" sticker eventually.

(if you have seperate cars, hers will DEFINITLY have these)

9.) She will most likely need a pair of dog tags to hang from the car's rear view mirror.

(see 3)

10.) Every week she'll have "another song" that makes her think of you when you're away.

(And she'll cry to it, even when you're in the same room)

11.) If youre married, she may know the base better than you do... Don't take it personal.

12.) You will catch her comparing your relationship with "other couples" in the military constantly.

13.) She'll make 5 million friends online, and talk to you about them all the time because her "old friends just don't understand" like they do.

14.) Don't be shocked when she just drops civilian chicks out of her life like flies.

(she mostly does this when they complain to her)

15.) DO NOT if you love her, say anything about you not wanting to make her wait for you... (TRUST me men, YOU ARE WORTH every breath to these women, or they wouldn't be here)

16.) Most women actually do LOVE it when you are sweaty and dirty, even the girlie girls. it's sexy as hell.

17.) Only bring up the field once, say it clear, and don't bring it up again. We will remember the time, the dates, like stone inside our mind. Don't remind us.

18.) You ARE our hero. That isn't us being cute, it's us swelling with pride, feeling like a princess everytime we glance over and you're standing there.

19.) Don't worry about waking her up when you get a chance to call, trust me, she's NOT sleeping. If she is, she's been waiting for you to call all night, and fell asleep next to the phone.

20.) Leave at least 3 of your shirts for her... she'll wear them all the time and if she doesn't wear them out she WILL wear them to sleep.

21.) No matter what she was like before, she is tough & harder than a rock now. She can handle anything, she will get through it, tears or no tears.

22.) Don't be discouraged or taken back from her strength. It comes with the territory. When in your arms, she's still your queen, soft and sweet.

23.) Your kids might see mommy as the one in charge for a while, it's okay, they WILL respect you, just give it time.

24.) EVERYTHING in her life will be complicated, so she might not always get the simple things you say to her.

25.) Tag Chasers are her WORST enemy, she CAN and WILL spot these girls... random profain comments may come out of your little queens' mouth... its okay, shes protecting her best asset...you.

26.) She will spend hours to look good on cam & pics for you, this is just a pasttime until you get home, be prepared for messy ponytails and comfy pants when you finally do get home.

27.) Her favorite sentences from you start with "when i get home" or "when i get out".

Lastly guys,
28.) No matter how much she's changed, never forget that you mean the world to her, she loves you more than anything, and you will ALWAYS be her hero..whether you think you are one or not.

Kris Humphries Believes His 72-Day Marriage to Kim Kardashian was a "Fraud"

Kris Humphries Believes His 72-Day Marriage to Kim Kardashian was a "Fraud"

I will just say that first off; you never know which tabolids and articles about celebrities are actually true...and I actually really like the Kardashians; they must be doing something right. The world is totally interested in at least some of their lives and they have a very popular hit show and products. They are earning terrific incomes and who really knows what they are like as normal people, friends, siblings,etc. Anyhow; I really feel bad for Kris. He seemed like a level-headed, mature and honest guy on the show. He seemed very old fashioned and respectful as well; I really feel bad for him; he probably was not used to the TV following him everywhere, living in L.A., a huge family and all the tabloids and cameras. Whatever the case may be; I think Kim should have taken marriage a tad more seriously. I am sure she was embarrassed and felt pressured...but he did propose to her; so obviously he loved her and it seems she probably only wanted a wedding, love, children,etc. without realizing marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. If I were Kim; I would not have immediatly done a season of a reality TV show right after getting married; either. Seriously; you have tons of money...taking time for your marriage is very important I would say. She has plenty other business ventures. I do not think couples should portray their lives on television...what do you save for yourself. There is no mystery; everyone's in your business...where is the fun in that? Your entire life would seem to be chaos, cameras...with zero privacy. I understand they're probably loving the attention; but why stay married for only 72 days...how do people give up on a marriage that easilly? Unless he cheated or she cheated; I think she should have at least tried marriage counseling. It seems like after the wedding and fun was done; she was done. I think I really lost all respect I had for her; but then again she is so brave for ending it...most people would have stayed in it. I do not think it was fraud; I think she just got in over her head. I think they did love each other; but he was not really what she truly wanted. Who knows; I can't wait until they just open their mouths and give us the true details...but I'm sure she's trying to keep her mouth closed so he will "respect" her and not reveal the dirty truth...we shall see...

Deployment Resources for Kids

Deployment Resources for Kids

Check this out if you have any military brats :)

Free Doula via OP Special Delivery

Free Doula via OP Special Delivery

Pregant military spouse? Check this out!

Top 6 Ways To Save Money on Food During a PCS Move

Top 6 Ways To Save Money on Food During a PCS Move

Great article; check it out!

Which ''facebooker'' are you?

‎1) The "Lurker" - Never posts anything or comments on your post, but reads everything, and might make reference to your status if they see you in public.
2) The "Hyena" - Doesn't ever really say anything, just LOLs and LMAOs at everything. 3) "Mr/Ms Popular" - Has 4367 friends for no reason.
4) The "Gamer" - Plays Words With Friends, Mafia Wars, Bakes virtual cakes and... shit, etc., ALL DAY.
5) The "Prophet" - Every post makes reference to God or Jesus.
6) The "Thief" - Steals status updates...and will probably steal this one.
7) The "Cynic" - Hates their life, and everything in it, as evidenced by the somber tone in ALL of their status updates.
8) The "Collector" - Never posts anything either, but joins every group, and becomes fans of the most random shit.
9) The "Promoter" - Always sends event invitations to things that you ultimately delete or ignore.
10) The "Liker" - Never actually says anything, buy always clicks the "like" button.
11) The "Hater" - Every post revolves around someone hating on them, and they swear people are trying to ruin their life.
12) The "Anti-Proofreader" - This person would benefit greatly from Spellcheck, and sometimes you feel bad for them because you don't know if they were typing fast, or really cant spell.
13) "Drama Queen/King" - This person always posts stuff like "I can't believe this!", or "They gonna make me snap today!", in the hopes that you will ask what happened, or what's wrong...but then they never finish telling the story.
14) "Womp Womp" - This person consistently tries to be funny...but never is.
15) The "News" - Always updates you on what they are doing and who they are doing it with, no matter how arbitrary.
16) The "Rooster" - Feels that it is their job to tell Facebook "Good Morning" every day...
17) The "Sandman" - Feels it is necessary to tell everyone "Goodnight" every night. So ... WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

Jessica Simpson News - Pregnant Jessica Simpson Gets Her Shop On in NYC (PHOTOS) - Celebuzz

Jessica Simpson News - Pregnant Jessica Simpson Gets Her Shop On in NYC (PHOTOS) - Celebuzz

I have always liked Jessica Simpson; I wonder if she is having a boy or girl?

Tips to get through a deployment

...Don't you hate when someone says "Oh; the time will go by so fast," or "A year deployment will be over before you know it..."  And it's always from non-military spouses/gfs. I totally understand they are only trying to give you some comfort and maybe do not know the right words to say. That is totally fine; it's hard to ever understand unless you live through it. I will be honest and say I do not think the time goes by fast...it seems to go by even slower the better you and your soldier are getting along because it makes you miss each other more. It seems like everything that can go wrong will when he's away...you take your phone to the bathroom with you; because the one time you do not, you miss his weekly phone call or his random phone call you miss so much all day. You find yourself wondering if he's missing you or getting upset when you go in pubic and see happy couples; because that could be you having a blast with your loved one. I do not think it ever gets easier; however I've learned being negative and not very productive will not bring my husband home faster so I've found things to help! Here are my tips on what I do to make things easier during a deployment.

• I would first recommend starting your own home based business. Why? Because you can earn money and owning a business is great for self esteem, personal growth, meeting new people and staying busy. My favorite perk? You also will be your own boss; therefore...you probably won't ever have to miss your soldier's phone calls,ask for time off during his R&R and so on! It is so nice not ever having to ask for time off to spend when he will get back from deployment,either! Here are some great work at home opportunities: www.freedomathometeam.com/davia  & www.davianewman.scentsy.us     Other ideas would be having a home daycare or maybe even something like coaching a sport you once did in highschool or volunteering at the local animal shelter...anything to stay busy!
• If you are not interested in starting a business; get a job at a military-frendly company; such as Kelly Service or Home Depot. Home Depot is awesome because they even allow you time for your soldier's R&R. How cool is that? A company that actually appreciates our lifestyle!
• Join a gym! Usually the ymca lets deployed spouses go to the gym free if your spouse is active duty of course; the only catch to the ymca in my area was that you need to attend the gym at least 8 times a month. The bases also are great places to work out and usually always for free if you are a spouse. You could also join women's only gyms. If you hate working out; try doing fitness classes like yoga! More than likely your soldier will be working out a lot overseas since they do not have much else to do...and wouldn't it be nice to both have smoking hot bodies after deployment? :) 
• Be active in your soldier's FRG. If you are a spouse, and sometimes girlfriends are allowed; see if your FRG has a facebook page or newsletter.Stay up to date and attend the meetings. You may not like the group but at least you would be doing your best to still support your soldier. Who knows?You may even meet another woman who can be a deployment buddy for you! Make sure you are mature with the FRG; never get caught up in gossip or drama. Remember you are there for more resources and to support your soldier and to get additional support. I hear many ladies have bad experiences with FRG, but it is probably due to lots of drama. Do not expect the FRG to be your sole support system; those ladies are 99% of the time other deployed spouses anyhow so often they do not have much time to offer tons of support but they usually will organize monthly newsletters, meetings, etc.   I notice some spouses are way too dependent on the FRG; don't be one of those ladies. 
• Find what you are good at! Any hobbies? Any crafts? You do have a life besides your soldier and use that to your advantage during this lonely and difficult time. Perhaps you always loved to sew or maybe you love to read! Keep a list handy of things you love to do and read over them when you feel lonely or bored
• Don't forget your girlfriends! Now; I'm not saying to go out nightly and drink your pain away, but a night out with my girlfriends are always an instant way to make me happy. At least once a month or even once every 2 weeks have a girls night. Whether its dinner and a movie; or cocktails at your favorite bar. I do not think it's bad to go to bars without your spouse; he is gone and should want you to have a life. If you do not have trust at a bar; he should not trust you to wait for him...just my opinion. Anyhow, adult interaction with your girlfriends is perfectly fine but I always say be respectful to your soldier and have a two drink maximum. Do not be the sloppy drunk married chick. If you want to drink more; stay home and just invite your girls over for a wine night or maybe you all can cook together and drink together. Do not go out and get drunk without your husband there; I think it would make any person feel quite uncomfortable...just my opinion! 
• Toys. Toys. Toys. Need I say more? Tell her D'Avia sent you! Click here
• Pre-Deployment Checklist---Use it. My Pre-Deployment Checklist Trust me; things will go wrong during the deployment....maybe your car won't start one morning or the dishwasher just mysteriously stops working...calm down. Things happen. Make sure you do check all you can before deployment however; such as things like the smoke detector, getting your oil changed on your car...prevent as much damage as you can and really let your family, friends,etc. help if they offer it. Of course do not use them or over due it but if they want to watch the children for a few hours so you can have alone time or go workout; let them. Too many ladies say they get zero support; but yet they have too much pride to know when people are being kind. 

Tips for a successful R&R

Aren't those days exciting the closer and closer it gets to spending a small amount of time with your honey; for your "break" during their deployment? It's not much of a break; but to us it means the world. Being a military spouse is one of the hardest jobs I believe; we look forward to things like this so much...we are used to sleeping alone and getting quick 5 minute phone calls. We cringe everytime there's a knock at the door; the mail man is our best friend...but before I start rambling I'd like to share my tips on how to make the best out of your significant other's R&R! First; don't be upset if he uses a lot of the time to catch up on rest. More than likely he's traveled a ton to get back to you and remember...they work 16 hour days most of the time...they don't have "weekends." Respect this is their break time and they may want to use it to catch up on a ton of rest; they work very hard. I know we probably sit at home or have normal jobs while they put their lives on the line...but your soldier deserves some rest too! It does not mean he/she loves you any less.

* Schedule a photoshoot! Oplove.org is a wonderful organization that does free photoshoots for military; I believe they must be active duty; but take advantage of this. Memories are very important and you can use the photos for your home, for photo albums, facebook, holiday cards and more. My then fiance and I did these a few days before we got married and they mean a lot to me...someone took the time to give us free photos and of course I get to look at them whenever I'm lonely!

*Do a couple's massage...spoil your soldier. They work hard for us. This also falls under the super romantic category.

*If you live together; decorate for his arrival...if you are meeting him at a hotel; you can still decorate the hotel. This is wonderful company in which you can get free welcome home banners custom made for your soldier; you just pay for the shipping. http://www.buildasign.com/Troops      Not sure how long that great deal will last; but you can also use vistaprints.com banners; they are affordable...or you can make your own. Something that says Welcome Home or just anything you wish to put to show your soldier you are excited they are home for even a short amount of time...until the next "see you later." Maybe add a cake, his fave food waiting on him and balloons. You do not have to go all out; but just a little something will be fun, don't forget to add a card!

* A counseling session....even if you have the most perfect relationship; I think this is an amazing thing to do for yourselves. This will help you just release emotions and communicate! Also; going to church will be something very nice to do; to just have a spiritual bond with your partner. If you are not religious; still consider the counseling session to just work on maintaining healthy emotions and communication for the rest of your relationship and/or deployment

* Create a memory! What have you all never done together? Have you never went to a certain aquarium you've always thought about visiting? Ever rode a hot air balloon? How about rock climbing? Whatever it may be; why not do something new together! Make the most out of it!

* Plan at least one family night and one friends night! Fun things to do are dinners, amusement parks,etc.   Remember there are other people missing your soldier as well! Share your soldier with other people who love and support him.

* What are his favorite colors? Get some super sexy lingerie in the color for the occassion? Have a video camera? Don't be shy...use it!

* Do nor argue! Sure; your soldier may just irritate or annoy you in the little time he's back home for a bit; but do not sweat the small stuff during this time...you will regret it as soon as he's gone again.

* There's life besides you...what does this mean? Do not become angry if he does use some time for his/her friends and you may just feel left out. Why? The wives are the ones alone....for months and months...sometimes with the kids...we lose our minds a few times...we wait and wait for these day...and they want to not spend all their time with us? Yeah; it bites. But realize it's not healthy for your soldier to only consume their lives with you; allow them to spend time with friends or even if it's on that annoying Xbox of theirs. Don't feel left out if they use some time for themselves...

* Do not spend all of your time with everyone else...what do I mean by this? Save some alone time. Do not think that your family member's have to be around nonstop; or your soldier's family member and friends have to be around 24/7. Sure; they miss him too and he misses them...but it's the two of you who have suffered enough; do not spend all of your time with everyone else. That may be hard for them to understand; especially their family but the couple should come first; especially when you are married. Save a few nights to do family outings; maybe a dinner or game night...then maybe have a night where you get all the friends together for a night on the town. Save the first and last night just for you two at least! I had a friend that hung out with me and my then; boyfriend...now husband; a night before one of his trainings for his deployment and I always regret it. I cherish every day we get together and I feel like I would have rather just had that night for just the two of us. He was gone for two months and we should've had more alone time. Lessons learned :)

Here are people that are saving money with AmeriPlan

Want to know what AmeriPlan® members are saying about the AmeriPlan® program? Here are people who are saving money with us!

AmeriPlan® members share their own experiences...

“ I wanted to write and tell you about the wonderful experience I had using Ameriplan Health. This was my first opportunity to use it. I needed some lab work done and called the number for a lab provider. They transferred me to Medstat-Ameriplan Health where I was fortunate to talk to a rep named Chris Nall. He explained the process to me in detail. I told him all the tests I needed and he gave me the prices for each one. Without Ameriplan Health I would have paid $547, with it I only paid $132, a savings of $415!! Not only that but he faxed over all information to the lab, gave me instructions to fast and provided me with a location only a few miles from my house. The whole process went very smoothly. My belief in this product has soared. ” 

Amber M. – Plano, TX

“ My wife was admitted to the hospital for sixteen days. By the time she was discharged she had incurred over $33,000 in bills from six different medical providers. Still unable to return to her job as a dance instructor, she had no way of paying any of the medical providers she was receiving bills from. The Karis Group was able to help her apply for an assistance program that covered the entire $27,000 hospital bill. The Karis Group then contacted the other medical providers that were involved. Several of the other providers agreed to write off the bills entirely. When the Karis Group was done the total outstanding charges were less than $2,300. My wife was set up on a long-term payment plan on the remaining balance. Total saving - over $30,000. ” 

Robert H. – Houston, TX

“ My existing insurance would not cover my annual physical examination nor would it cover any of the necessary lab work. I needed a total of 7 tests for which the cost was going to be $948.00. I forwarded the required tests to Medstat and over the phone they quoted me $297.00. I paid it with my credit card, they faxed me the form I needed to carry to the lab after setting the appointment, my wait was less than 20 minutes! The lab sent the reports to Medstat, they faxed them to me and my doctor and I was thrilled! That was a savings of $651.00! ” 

Fred G. – Duncan, SC

“ Because someone has dental insurance does not mean they are fully covered. My boys had just gotten their 2nd cleaning for the year when we found out our 4-year-old had 2 cavities. They asked me to bring him back and my copay would be $24.00 to cover the visit. While drilling they noticed 2 more cavities forming behind the original 2... So, we said go ahead and fix those as well. I'm thinking to myself since it was $24.00 for 2 cavities I'll just have to pay $48.00 total. No biggie! After we are done I went to the front desk to pay and I was given a total of $313.50!!!! Turns out he had exceeded his $500.00 yearly limit on our dental insurance, after his 2nd filled cavity. I asked the front desk to give me a price with my AmeriPlan card on the 2 cavities not covered. She said they had already given me the discount that the insurance gives AFTER maximum has been met! I asked her to humor me and give me my AmeriPlan price! So, she did and it turned out I ONLY paid $200.50 vs the $313.50! I saved $113.50 by using our AmeriPlan card at a Pediatric Dentist that says they only give us a 20% discount! My discount was more than that! ” 

Susan G. – Peyton, CO

“ In 2004, I was quoted 945.00 for a root canal that I desperately needed. My h usband was between jobs and I was a full-time mom, so I really could not afford that! I "google-searched" discounted dental plans and found Ameriplan! I signed up, got my card and went in to my dentist to see what the discount would be! Instead of 945.00, I paid 375.00!!!!! I was thrilled! I wound up needing two more root canals, had some cavities filled and ended up saving 2,200.00 on my dental work in 2004!!! Thank you, Ameriplan! I now have a great smile with healthy teeth and it didn't break our bank account! Because I experienced first hand how good our benefits are, I joined the company as an IBO and am now a full time mom and ESD with Ameriplan, who hit the $25,000 Presidents Club this past November! Life is good and we now have additional income as well as affordable health care! ” 

Theresa D. – Point Pleasant Beach, NJ

“ I have really good dental insurance with the military. However, in December of 2006 I went in for a 2nd opinion. I already had 2 dental cleanings for the year. So, I wasn't sure how much the insurance would cover. I made sure to go to a provider that was in-network for my insurance and also an Ameriplan provider. I was given a brief oral exam and bite-wing x-rays. The bill would have been $90 and my insurance was willing to pay $20 of that. Then, I called the dental office and reminded them that they had my Ameriplan card on file as well. They took the bill back up to $90, took off the Ameriplan discount and then my $20 from the insurance and my bill went from $90 to $40. I was THRILLED! Who wants to pay an extra $30 when you can save with Ameriplan! ” 

Laura C. – Bayport, MN

“In the first six months that I had AmeriPlan® I saved $225.00 using the dental benefits and $335.00 on my eye exam and glasses. Within another six months I had also saved another $221.00 on prescriptions.” 

Jen S. – Conifer, CO

“ I went to a Lens Crafters for my eye exam and saved $20.00 on the exam alone. I then purchased some new glasses that are name brand. I am about blind as a bat and need to have my lenses thinned so I don't look like I'm wearing coke bottles! My lenses normally run $240.00 for the lenses ONLY and my new frames normally cost $162.00. My new glasses came out to $402.00 and then I handed them my AmeriPlan Card through Coast to Coast Vision. She gave me my new total of ONLY $219.00. My frames went from $162.00 down to $96.00 and my lenses went from $240.00 to $123.00. I saved a total of $183.00 on my frames and lenses by using AmeriPlan. That came out to be a 45% savings on my new glasses. ”

Susan G. – Peyton, CO

“ We have been using our Ameriplan prescription benefit a lot lately and have been saving a lot! My husband received a prescription from our Dr. that he takes on a monthly basis. We were so pleased when we gave the script to our pharmacist and she said this will be $120.00 but with your discount thru Medco you will only be paying $44.00! A savings of $76 a month. Thank You Ameriplan!! My daughter went to the dentist to get her teeth cleaned which only was $47.00. She was REALLY smiling big after that!! ” 

Tammy R. – Royal Oak, MI

“I saved $20.00 on my chiropractic visit, $82.00 on my glasses, 30% on my contacts, and $7.00 on some cough medicine. I cannot brag on AmeriPlan® enough. ” 

Donna O. – Douglas, GA

“ I just wanted to thank you again for the Chiropractor referral. My husband and I have both started seeing Dr. Minshew-Shurr, and she is the most amazing doctor! She has been able to definitively find the cause of my back pain and headaches (that I have had for years!) and diagnose my husband as well. We are just thrilled with her treatment and kind attention to our personal cases. 

I appreciate your help in connecting us with her. It has made such a difference and I a m just amazed at the way God leads us in this life to find just what we need at just the right time. I just randomly picked up your number off of the flyer at my apartment and through you and Ameriplan have found a great dentist and chiropractor. ” 

Hillary S. – Dallas, TX
 It makes perfect sense to add AmeriPlan® to your life. If you would like to know how much you can save... give me a call now and we can go over all the details. Feel free to visit my website for information as well at: www.Mybenefitsplus.com/davia

  

I look forward to speaking with you soon!

Warm Regards,

D'Avia Newman

Toll Free: 18667398411

DNewman@AmeriPlan.net